Sunday, August 10, 2025

"Brats and Bratting!" -- August 10, 2025

 [15:40] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Good morning and welcome to Koffee Klatch!

 

[15:40] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): The usual blurb follows....

 

[15:40] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Our discussions are in text and are in the usual C/Q/R format, meaning type "C" if you wish to make a comment, "Q" if you have a question, usually directed at a person's comments, and "R" if you wish to retract either your C or your Q.  If a person has a question for a specific person on what they said, just say "Q @ [name]"

 

[15:41] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): We tend to go in the order received, however, we generally will promote questions directed at a person's comment to the top.  The handy-dandy giant coffee cup in the middle will keep track of the order.

 

[15:41] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): If a person asks a question of the group, there is no need to put in a "C" to reply, replies to the question will be open.  Just answer, or we'll have a bunch of "Cs" at the bottom.

 

[15:41] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Please keep extraneous talk in IM...otherwise it gets noisy!

 

[15:41] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): The archive for this Klatch can be found here:  https://xaarakoffeeklatch.blogspot.com/  It houses current and many older discussions.

 

[15:42] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): With that out of the way, we'll begin.

 

[15:42] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): This is the last discussion in the "BDSM" acronym series

 

[15:42] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): when we gather in two weeks we'll start a series of more general discussions

 

[15:43] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): but as knowledge builds on knowledge, what we have discussed here will inform future discussions

 

[15:43] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): so don't hit 'erase!' 😉

 

[15:44] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Today we discuss a very misunderstood kind of submissive....The Brat

 

[15:45] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): After "Babygirls" which we discussed last week, Brats tend to cause the most consternation.

 

[15:45] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): There is a very deep love/hate kind of feeling toward Brats

 

[15:45] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): A Brat is not just a 'cheeky sub'

 

[15:46] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): A Cheeky sub has a sense of humor, might say some off the wall, sarcastic things, or have some interesting behaviors that could rub people the wrong way, but doesn't take things to the level of The Brat.

 

[15:46] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Brats are also often referred to by others as "Attention Whores"

 

[15:46] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Which may be in a way true, as Brats are usually finding new and improved ways to keep their Dominant on their toes and "make things more fun"...involving some new screwball kind of behavior.

 

[15:47] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): So the attention to detail is often the important parthere

 

[15:47] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): An example I've used before.....

 

[15:47] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Master HottDude says to his Bratty slave "Go make me coffee"

 

[15:47] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Slave says "Yes Master!" and runs into the kitchen

 

[15:47] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): He can smell the coffee brewing and smiles.

 

[15:48] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Ten minutes later, she comes back in the living room minus coffee, and plops back on the couch..

 

[15:48] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Y'all can see where this is going..

 

[15:48] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Master HottDude says "Hey...where's my coffee?"

 

[15:48] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): She looks back with an incredulous look and says, loudly, "WELL YOU SAID to *make* coffee. You didn't say you want any!"

 

[15:48] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): rimshot

 

[15:48] Magnus Diavolo (Magnus Diavolo):   smiles and nods.

 

[15:48] Draya Darkwing (Drayana Firehart):   giggles

 

[15:49] Mal (Pwnography Resident): Not the coffee

 

[15:49] shae the pwincess muffinbutt (Shae Shadow):   looks innocent

 

[15:49] Draya Darkwing (Drayana Firehart): i may or may not have done that before..

 

[15:49] Sydney Dark (Badvudo Resident): what did he expect from a brat

 

[15:49] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): So unlike the smart-alek, cheeky sub, the Brat is always looking for a new and improved way to "make things more fun" and keep the activity rolling.

 

[15:49] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Dominants that can't handle Brats are completely perplexed by this....WHY would a Dominant want to put up with such a person who is endlessly finding ways to contravene orders or do insane things?

 

[15:50] Jason-Lenore Blackwood (Malaclypse Blackwood): Emotional masochism?

 

[15:50] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): That said...Brats are misunderstood by people so perplexed.

 

[15:51] Becky Koolhoven (Becky Koolhoven): they are not insane things, brats have a higher IQ than the mass, hence they seem insane ;p

 

[15:51] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): They do intend to obey and serve...but what I have been told by Brats and read on their worldview is something like this..."I will obey but not to anyone.  Why should I just 'obey' in a mindless, rote way?  Make me obey and I will."

 

[15:52] Sydney Dark (Badvudo Resident): *sighs happily*

 

[15:52] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): and the kind of Dom  that appreciates Brats are the ones that like beig 'kept on their toes' so to speak, so they have to find new and improved ways to gain that obedience.

 

[15:52] Jason-Lenore Blackwood (Malaclypse Blackwood):   shakes my head

 

[15:53] wombaticus (wombaticus Resident): A mental battle challenge?

 

[15:54] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): and of course before I turn  things over....what people consesually do is their biz.  If a sub is a Brat or not, or a Dom  wants to have a Brat as a sub or not, is all their personal choice.  As long as things are SSC and fall under RACK and PRICK rules, what people do is their concern and all we really want here is understanding and happiness for everyone.]

 

[15:55] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): So with all that said....

 

[15:55] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): The questions for the August Assembly today are: 1) Are YOU a Brat, and if so, what "excitement" do you like bringing your Dominant (or, if you are not one, what zany stuff have you seen Brats do?) and 2) If You are a Dominant who likes Brats, or dislikes them, why? What is it about a Brat that either attracts You or instantly repels You?

 

[15:55] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): and of course we do this in a spirit of understanding

 

[15:56] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Shae you can start us when you're ready

 

[15:56] shae the pwincess muffinbutt (Shae Shadow): "Brat" is as close as anything to an accurate term for my submissive style

 

[15:57] shae the pwincess muffinbutt (Shae Shadow): The main thing it brings my D type is amusement and a way to initiate some display of dominance

 

[15:57] shae the pwincess muffinbutt (Shae Shadow): Rather than passively waiting to be dominated. If that makes sense

 

[15:57] shae the pwincess muffinbutt (Shae Shadow): *done*

 

[15:58] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Yes, I have had Brat subby friends say "it keeps the connection going as They have to find a new way to control my behavior"

 

[15:58] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): rahter than how they see "instant expected obedience"

 

[15:59] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): I’m sort of paraphrasing here of course

 

[15:59] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Good start!  Thanks Shae!

 

[16:00] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): We move to Kat please

 

[16:00] Kat Shadow (Kat Shadow): For me, there's a visceral delight in being able to radically realign a brat's attitude... the little meep when my hand goes for a nearby sharp pointy thing and I give her a LOOK

 

[16:00] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): and the audible "gulp"

 

[16:00] shae the pwincess muffinbutt (Shae Shadow):   meeps

 

[16:00] Kat Shadow (Kat Shadow): exactly

 

[16:01] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Hee hee

 

[16:01] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Excellent!

 

[16:01] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Thanks so much Kat!

 

[16:01] shae the pwincess muffinbutt (Shae Shadow): It's a dialogue, of sorts

 

[16:01] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): We move to Aithne please!

 

[16:01] Aithne (Dryantillae Resident): no I do not consider myself a brat ... If a Dominant prefers their sub that way, I believe that to be their business...I love to please and if my Master wants a coffee, I wish to please Him ..I am new here but I would like to also ask a question ..can a slave also be a brat or is that more for a sub?

 

[16:02] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): anyone can answer her question if you wish

 

[16:02] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): no C please just answer

 

[16:02] Magnus Diavolo (Magnus Diavolo):   nods. That's a very good question, Aithne. The short is yes, a slave can be a brat, so long as that's the dynamic that their Master enjoys.

 

[16:03] Kat Shadow (Kat Shadow): yes  one can be both.... brat is my slave & also... a brat

 

[16:03] wombaticus (wombaticus Resident): The answer is the choice of the Dom/Domme and the sub, slave. I know of a few slaves that are bratty.

 

[16:03] spice 'imy' mcginty (Spice Enthusiast): I believe it's about tendencies - no one has to fit in a nice neat little box.  P/people who know me best would say I'm more slave at times, more babygirl at other times, more non-human role/pet at times, and brat sometimes too.  Labels aren't the be-all, end all, and people can be anything.  :)

 

[16:03] Draya Darkwing (Drayana Firehart): i think people get tyoo caught up in lables, can a person have both slave traits and bratty ones, sure they can, im one :p im a brat that at times can be very slave like in some dituations or mind sets,

 

[16:03] shae the pwincess muffinbutt (Shae Shadow):   nods agreement

 

[16:03] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Imy, make me coffee!

 

[16:03] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): :P

 

[16:04] Kat Shadow (Kat Shadow):   dramatically point's at shae behind her back

 

[16:04] spice 'imy' mcginty (Spice Enthusiast): Sure thing, Miss Vanni - but if You want to drink the coffee, I'm gonna need more explicit instructions.  xD

 

[16:04] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): LOL

 

[16:04] Kahlan Dark (wobbles08 Resident): but in what condition will you get your coffee, miss vanni? *grins with a wink

 

[16:04] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): I hoped you would do some "Harry Potter" thing and turn me in to a cuppa coffee

 

[16:04] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): "WELL YOU SAID...."

 

[16:05] spice 'imy' mcginty (Spice Enthusiast): Ah, the caffeine hasn't quite circulated enough for that level of thought xD

 

[16:05] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli):   giggles

 

[16:05] Mal (Pwnography Resident): Latteus maximus?

 

[16:05] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): LOL!

 

[16:05] Kahlan Dark (wobbles08 Resident): hocus pocus affine opus! *poof!

 

[16:05] spice 'imy' mcginty (Spice Enthusiast):   grins at Sir Mal.  Perfection.

 

[16:05] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): I love all you folks

 

[16:06] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Thank you all who offered an answer.

 

[16:06] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): and thank you Aithne

 

[16:06] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): and welcome to Xaara!

 

[16:06] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Ok we move to Imy!

 

[16:06] spice 'imy' mcginty (Spice Enthusiast): For me - I can have brat tendencies, but only really with my own Master (or those Dominants I'm close to that are ok with such behaviors) and in an appropriate time/place.  Like I'm not going to cause a scene in a public ceremony, but I ~will +1 Him at every opportunity when W/we play Skip It, regardless of if His pile is the lowest or not.  Specifically so I can hear Him stop mid-sentence in O/our voice call and say, "Oh, eat my ~whole dick."  It makes me giggle.  I also try to keep in tune with His mood as much as I can - if He doesn't respond well to a joke/behavior/etc because He's tired or stressed from work, I don't push the issue.  I think that's the part that F/folks on the outside who judge brattiness don't see... we're not just indiscriminately being a dick in public without consent or reason... it's within O/our negotiated dynamic and I personally try to make sure I'm not forcing third party consent to my antics in a room full of P/people I don't know, especially when I don't know how T/they feel about brats or bratty behavior. #

 

[16:07] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Right!

 

[16:09] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): That was all really good Imy...and even the parts that are seen in public are due to do an understanding between the Dom  and Brat

 

[16:09] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): But that does make for a good other point...to what level can a Brat be one out in public...and if people get mad is that forcing a third party consent

 

[16:10] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): I think soon we will do a whole discussion on third party consent

 

[16:10] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): as it's an important topic

 

[16:10] Magnus Diavolo (Magnus Diavolo): Ooo, that's a good one.

 

[16:10] spice 'imy' mcginty (Spice Enthusiast):   tips imaginary hat.  Happy to help give You another topic to slate.  xD

 

[16:10] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): but I don't wanna get into that tangent here and now

 

[16:10] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Thanks so much Imy (still waits for coffee)... :P

 

[16:11] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): we move to Aries please

 

[16:11] Aries Amore (Aries Amore): thank you

 

[16:11] Aries Amore (Aries Amore): I agree that people get to caught up in labeling.  Sometimes it is just a matter of personality.  I wake up sometimes in a playful mood...and some Dominates would perceive this as being bratty.  But to me, I am happy and being playful.  It is the real me...and I do like the correction parts, even if subtle or gentle, it makes me feel my submission at my core. If I know a particular Dominate will view me as a brat or less than sub/slave, I will now feel free to be the real me, all of me. I will not share this part of me, which I believe can be enjoyable. And I am not like this ALL of the time,but this part does exist as I can be playful, (bratty).

 

[16:12] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Several good points

 

[16:12] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): the line between "Cheeky Sub" and "Bratty Sub" is sort of muddled

 

[16:13] Johan Dark (WJohanW Resident): One persons cheeky is another persons bratty :)

 

[16:13] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): one's cheeky subby girl or boy is another's "oh jesus a BRAT. let's go!"

 

[16:13] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): jinx!

 

[16:13] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli):   hands Johan a coke

 

[16:13] spice 'imy' mcginty (Spice Enthusiast):   grins

 

[16:13] Johan Dark (WJohanW Resident): Danke'!

 

[16:13] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): but spot on

 

[16:14] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): so that was a really good point, Aries

 

[16:14] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Thank you for your contribution!

 

[16:14] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Magnus, you are up please!

 

[16:14] Magnus Diavolo (Magnus Diavolo): First, I want to commend you on the way you present the topic - the brat thinking that she's making things more "interesting" and the unprepared dominant thinking she's being "difficult." That encapsulates the usual viewpoints very well. For me, that trouble that the brat went through to brew the coffee and not bring it to me just means that she'll be making two trips, possibly with a sore bum the second time.  I'll preface this by saying that I've never owned a brat, but I do know a few. I think too many might view the brat as unnecessarily "attention-grabbing" or any other number of negative labels. In my personal experience, however, I have found brats to be fun and witty. Even more so when you get two brats together and watch them go into conspiracy mode, but I digress. I have neither a like nor dislike for brats - they're just a form of extra-playful submissive to me and they require a different kind of handling.  Just as importantly, I'm attracted to intelligence and brats are often very sharp – almost as sharp as the implements that keep them in line.

 

[16:15] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): I agree!

 

[16:15] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): not to say of course that non-brat subs are *not* intelligent or creative

 

[16:16] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): but Brats seem to have that....extra push up the ladder lol

 

[16:16] Magnus Diavolo (Magnus Diavolo): True, true. Did not mean to imply that.

 

[16:16] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): I know :)

 

[16:17] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): I read something years ago on a website from a Master that owned a Bratty Sub...he said the greatest sense of terror he would have is coming home from work...and she would be in the middle of the living room...kneeling and...grinning...

 

[16:17] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): He figured the ceiling was about to collapse on him

 

[16:17] Magnus Diavolo (Magnus Diavolo):   laughs.

 

[16:17] Draya Darkwing (Drayana Firehart): hehehe

 

[16:17] spice 'imy' mcginty (Spice Enthusiast):   chuckles.

 

[16:18] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): so yes...you speak well of Bratty subs!

 

[16:18] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): and I do agree that "attention whore" is a negative term

 

[16:18] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Thank you!

 

[16:18] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): autumn you are up please!

 

[16:18]  Aυţυмη нαuι (AutumnRaineSkye Resident): I am not a brat, I even have a hard time unless extremely comfortable being cheeky, or even making intentional mistakes, not sure if that is due to CPTSD, or the tism.  I can see it's appeal, from a subs view, the reminder of being put in my place, or from a Dom s view, having to re establish the boundaries, but I couldn't do it myself.  I also prefer to not stand out, even if it's for good things, and I do prefer praise over discipline.   But I can see how others would enjoy that dynamic. #

 

[16:20] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): I do not think that Brats are really trying to make their Dominant "mad"...otherwise they would not have said Dom .  I think it's more "let's push a bit and give you yet another fun opportunity to put me in my place."

 

[16:20] shae the pwincess muffinbutt (Shae Shadow):   nods emphatically at that last comment

 

[16:21]  Aυţυмη нαuι (AutumnRaineSkye Resident): Nods "But even that is out of my comfort zone"

 

[16:21] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Understood!

 

[16:21] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): As a switch it's not me either.

 

[16:21]  Aυţυмη нαuι (AutumnRaineSkye Resident): Smiles

 

[16:21] Magnus Diavolo (Magnus Diavolo): And there is nothing wrong with that, Autumn. Your form of submission is just as valid and valued.

 

[16:22] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): but I appreciate anyone's way of doing things that are SSC and consensual....even if it's not my cuppa tea.

 

[16:22]  Aυţυмη нαuι (AutumnRaineSkye Resident): Exactly

 

[16:22] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Thanks!

 

[16:22] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Becky ma chere....you are up!

 

[16:22] Becky Koolhoven (Becky Koolhoven): thank you chérie

 

[16:22] Becky Koolhoven (Becky Koolhoven): My comment is in line with what many already said, adding some of my vision and some precisions (It is the resume of a paper I wrote recently for my local dungeon.)  In general, we tend to see brats as all about defiance—challenging authority, pushing to seize control of a situation, even blurring into what some would call topping from the bottom.  Bratting done well is none of that. At its best, it’s a playful, skillful dance that never seeks to take the reins away from the dominant.  The brat may tease, provoke, and push, but always with the intention of enhancing the connection, not undermining it. Some brats can be full-on mischief until a single clear order—or even a quiet “hush”—switches them instantly into full obedience.  They’re not there to derail; they’re there to make the power dynamic richer.   Many dominants love brats for exactly that reason: they know the brat fully acknowledges their authority and will respect it without question.  Of course, give a brat idle time and expect some creative improvisation, what else do you expect?

 

[16:23] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli):   stands and claps

 

[16:24] Mal (Pwnography Resident):   knows those dashes anywhere

 

[16:24] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Brava!  Brava!

 

[16:24] shae the pwincess muffinbutt (Shae Shadow): Excellent summary!

 

[16:24] Magnus Diavolo (Magnus Diavolo):   applauds. Very well said.

 

[16:24] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Spot on Becky

 

[16:25] Becky Koolhoven (Becky Koolhoven): its a subject close to heart, as I brat from both sides of the slash ;)

 

[16:25] spice 'imy' mcginty (Spice Enthusiast):   grins and nods nods at Miss Becky.

 

[16:25] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Because in the end communication is always the thing

 

[16:25] Becky Koolhoven (Becky Koolhoven): I am loud, and I need attention, I love being looked at

 

[16:25] Becky Koolhoven (Becky Koolhoven): communication is the skeleton key to anything we do

 

[16:25] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Indeed!

 

[16:26] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Thank you so much for that!

 

[16:26] Kat Shadow (Kat Shadow):   nods excitedly at what Becky said

 

[16:26] Becky Koolhoven (Becky Koolhoven):

 

[16:26] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Draya, we move to you please!

 

[16:26] Draya Darkwing (Drayana Firehart): i am a "brat", and im sure everyone that knows me know that, although i am many things, many aspects all rolled into one, but  one thing i hate though especially in SL (more rare in RL lifestyle) Brats get a bad name not just for what you spoke of with lack of understanding, but also by those out there being "assholes" to others and then just saying they a brat, being a brat is not about being an asshole, its never about breaking rules, a brat that breaks a rule is doing it wrong, (in my eyes) its about skirting that line, but never crossing it, following the rules to the letter at times, so much so that the Dominant has to adjust, think of a Brat like a genie, if you make a wish/command, you better be sure you word it exactly right, hehe, As has been said it keeps things flowing more naturally, my Old Daddy used to say "if I have a sub that always dose exactly as they are told all the time, how can i improve my ability to dominate,"  it keeps things going, always evolving, not getting stagnant like some can, its not an all the time thing and its often best if its not, then you can take your Dom by surprise and thats even better hehe,

But being a Brat is hard, balancing that line takes skill, especially with a good Dom that can close them loopholes, but thats part of the fun,

As for the attention grabbing, what sub does not want the attention of their dom? Brats are just more "active" about it, its not about being needy or attention seeking, its a dynamic that flows well back and forth, it can look negative to anyone outside, but then that can be said for any D/s Dynamic, a masochist being beaten brutally may look cruel to those that are not masochist....  anyway sorry il shut up now :)

 

[16:28]  Aυţυмη нαuι (AutumnRaineSkye Resident): Draya, you just answered my question, I agree that is why they get a bad name

 

[16:28] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli):   makes a saving throw against "Wall of Text" :P

 

[16:28] Draya Darkwing (Drayana Firehart):   giggles

 

[16:28] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): All very well said Draya!

 

[16:29] Magnus Diavolo (Magnus Diavolo): Well said, Draya. Maybe we need a discussion on "responsible bratting".

 

[16:29] spice 'imy' mcginty (Spice Enthusiast):   checks Miss Vanni's throw.  "Nat 1, sorry, Miss."

 

[16:29] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): lol Imy

 

[16:29] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): And to vanillas, if they came in this room and saw subs kneeling, they might flip out at all this perceived "abuse" of people....so your point about everything being relative is an important one

 

[16:29] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): one person's abuse is another night of fun in the dungeon

 

[16:30] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): whooo!

 

[16:30] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Thanks so much for all that!

 

[16:30] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Jason-Lenore you are up please!

 

[16:31] Jason-Lenore Blackwood (Malaclypse Blackwood): Thank you Vanni. Personally I'm not a fan of the brat dynamic. It's not that I don't like laughing and joking and playing around being silly, I absolutely do... but the idea of "make me obey" coming from a dynamic to me is baffling. If you have already submitted then in my mind the Dominant shouldn't have to force obedience, I shouldn't have to be on the look out for booby traps in my coffee. I can see for a scene that cashing in those ass checks that the mouth writes, being a fun aspect to play, but for day to day life? Hell no. If I am telling someone in my collar to do something, I expect it to be done, not that I'm gonna have to force them to complete a task or get my damned beverage. Now go ahead and make snarky comments, grumble and complain....don't care just get the shit done, I'll cash in more ass-checks during scene time. I don't have the time for disobedience, nor do I want to waste my time on a power struggle, it's exhausting. That is not what I got into this Lifestyle for, if I want that kind of defiance then I'll go get a vanilla partner with an attitude to not do what I want them to do. Hard pass. But maybe that's just the Leatherman talking, I like my rules, protocols, and decorum. #

 

[16:32] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): I was thinking coming from the Leather Community, "Brat" would be seen as not something all that positive

 

[16:32] shae the pwincess muffinbutt (Shae Shadow):   wonders whether "brat" was even a concept in Old Guard culture?

 

[16:32] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): and again, everyone has their preference and as long as we do our thing and respect others doing their thing, disagreement is fine

 

[16:33] spice 'imy' mcginty (Spice Enthusiast):   grins at shae and nodnods.  Some understand it.

 

[16:33] Draya Darkwing (Drayana Firehart):   smirks "yeah Sir Jason is a grumpy man, he dont even like my glitter i got special for him... " sulks

 

[16:33] Jason-Lenore Blackwood (Malaclypse Blackwood): Closest thing to a brat in Leather now are the pups

 

[16:33] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): I have no desire to be a slave....zero...but I appreciate those that get fulfillment from "slavery" to a Dominant

 

[16:33] shae the pwincess muffinbutt (Shae Shadow): That makes sense, Master Jason

 

[16:34] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): "Different strokes...for different folks...."

 

[16:34] Jason-Lenore Blackwood (Malaclypse Blackwood): Snark don't bother me as long as there is successful execution of commands

 

[16:34] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): actually can we talk about "strokes" at a later date *giggles*

 

[16:34] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Right

 

[16:35] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): That's fine!

 

[16:35] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): And subs in your dynamic will be attracted to that

 

[16:35] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Thank you!

 

[16:35] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): We move to Sydney please!

 

[16:36] Sydney Dark (Badvudo Resident): As a brat I am fishing for a response from my Master.  Usually I already have some idea what type of response I want and gauge my jest aiming for that outcome.  Past experience with different types and levels of brattish behavior elicit various expected comeback.  Being cheeky, disobedient, and naughty is fun. It creates a sense of playfulness that can be missing. A Brat must understand her Master's limits and where he draws the line ... the Dom also needs to understand how I view my jesting and how I use it.  It can be a fun dance between us.  But ... I also feel apprehensive about being a brat in public.  Other Doms in the area might have different limits and consider my remarks as disrespectful.  Having someone think I was disrespectful or caused harm to my Master would be extremely painful.  Bratting should be seen and used as something that is playful as long as it is maintained within my Master's limits and adds to his delight and happiness in the relationship. #

 

[16:36] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Right!

 

[16:37] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): and that is how it works for you and how Johan and you set that up

 

[16:37] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): So it works

 

[16:37] Sydney Dark (Badvudo Resident): he seems to like my brat

 

[16:37] Johan Dark (WJohanW Resident): I like all of you :)

 

[16:37] Draya Darkwing (Drayana Firehart):   giggles

 

[16:38] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): But I also think if Johan said "Sydney not tonight" for whatever personal reason, you would quickly change said behavior.

 

[16:38] Sydney Dark (Badvudo Resident): nods

 

[16:38] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): so the dynamic is important

 

[16:38] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli):   smiles

 

[16:39] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Thanks so much!

 

[16:39] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli):   spanks my bratty hand

 

[16:39] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Kahlan!  you are up please

 

[16:39] Johan Dark (WJohanW Resident): [09:26] Kahlan Dark (wobbles08): here is my comment, if i'm not back, please post it for me

 

[09:26] Kahlan Dark (wobbles08): Bratting and Babygirl both have such negative connotations on the whole. I have been called both and because of it being such a loaded word when either is directed at me I wince and have to wonder 'did I go too far this time, was it actually funny or come out sounding mean and rude.' There have been many a time that I did something thinking I was making others smile and laugh and just being lighthearted (such as my bio-degradable glitter confetti that is easy clean up) and in turn was called a Brat because one person didn't find it funny. It sent me in a spiral wondering if I actually wasn't funny, wasn't 'good', wasn't obedient... I'm now at a point where I ask others, Dom and sub, that witnessed the interaction if I was too far off base. But most times I only really 'let the glitter fairy out' when I'm comfortable with those I'm with so to have Brat thrown in my face when I do makes me question more than just myself. So when something comes up i mark it for later to be a little bit 'less' around these people the next time.

This is perhaps not exactly the slant you were looking for but this has been my experience in the realm of bratting. ##

 

[16:40] spice 'imy' mcginty (Spice Enthusiast):   nods nods at Kahlan in understanding.

 

[16:40] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): I think that all makes perfect sense

 

[16:41] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Even the "cheeky/snarky" sub that isn't really a brat knows when and where it might not be appreciated

 

[16:41] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): and can dial it down

 

[16:41] Jason-Lenore Blackwood (Malaclypse Blackwood): If the glitter doesn't hurt the leather then I'm ok with it, but that metal glitter is a hard limit for me.

 

[16:42] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Blowing up a glitter bomb at a wedding or funeral for example....no bueno

 

[16:42] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): hee hee...good point Jason-Lenore!

 

[16:42] Magnus Diavolo (Magnus Diavolo): I believe that metal glitter is technically called shrapnel.

 

[16:42] Aries Amore (Aries Amore): Exactly, we are conditioned over time to hide the playful parts of our personalities in public settings over time.

 

[16:42] Jason-Lenore Blackwood (Malaclypse Blackwood): Yes

 

[16:46] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Kat back to you please!

 

[16:46] Kat Shadow (Kat Shadow): I will say, I think it takes a lot of mutual understanding & great lines of communication... a good brat can read when, how far etc... and in shae & my case, we had a much more traditional Owner/property relationship for *years* and had built up a LOT of understanding of each other .Dynamics sometimes evolve as needs do

 

[16:46] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): 100%

 

[16:47] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): we are humans...we change

 

[16:47] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): I'm not the same person I was a month ago, never mind five years ago

 

[16:48] spice 'imy' mcginty (Spice Enthusiast):   smiles, nodnodding.

 

[16:48] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): so to think that any relationship is just static is not in line with human experience

 

[16:48] Becky Koolhoven (Becky Koolhoven): you are still as amazing in my eyes

 

[16:48] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli):   blows Becky a kiss

 

[16:48] Becky Koolhoven (Becky Koolhoven):   giggles

 

[16:48] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): thanks Kat!

 

[16:48] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Johan, we come to the third Dark family member please!

 

[16:48] Johan Dark (WJohanW Resident): Thank you for this discussion Vanni,  I'm working on a write up as part of my Adept Syllabus specifically on Bratting and Brats & their Tamers. When I first came into BDSM, Bratting/Brat Play, wasn't common or openly acknowledged. It was only within the past 10-15 years that its become more common on SL and the larger D/s community that I've seen online.  My initial encounters with brats was non-consensual. They would purposefully misbehave and act like well... spoiled little children, in clubs and chats, and then pull the "Nyah nyah, you can't do anything to me, My Owner likes me this way and they won't listen to your complaint anyway so STFU!"   Which understandably left a bad taste in my mouth for the past decade regarding brats.  Only through owning/partnering Sydney have I become more understanding that its more about being 'playful' and 'impish' and well...   ME.... I am DEFINITELY a Bratty Dominant;  I don't want to give much more of my own upcoming Community Chat away on Brat play, so I hope those who are interested will keep an eye out for it and attend. :)     (shameless self plug )) #done

 

[16:48] Jason-Lenore Blackwood (Malaclypse Blackwood): That's why we have dynamics

 

[16:50] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): undoubtedly there are annoying Brats that act like s**t and they give all Brats a bad name

 

[16:50] Jason-Lenore Blackwood (Malaclypse Blackwood): Same to Johan's experience.

 

[16:50] Magnus Diavolo (Magnus Diavolo): Excellent observation, Johan. I look forward to your chat.

 

[16:50] Draya Darkwing (Drayana Firehart): they are what i earlier referred to as "assholes"

 

[16:50] Magnus Diavolo (Magnus Diavolo): I was just about to reference your comment, Draya.

 

[16:51] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): there are plenty of vanillas that I would strangle if it were legal LOL

 

[16:51] Draya Darkwing (Drayana Firehart): right...

 

[16:51] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): so again it's a bell curve...most are ok but it's the outliers that get the most viability and so affect perceptions

 

[16:51] Becky Koolhoven (Becky Koolhoven): One suggestion, lets stop calling these "assholes" brats, cause I don't think they are... and the fact they quite often act without prior consent doesn't feel like they deserve a second of our time, mine at least.

 

[16:52] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): agreed

 

[16:52] Magnus Diavolo (Magnus Diavolo): I agree, Becky.

 

[16:52] Draya Darkwing (Drayana Firehart):   nods

 

[16:52] shae the pwincess muffinbutt (Shae Shadow):   head moves up and down fast

 

[16:53] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): but at the same time there are "brats" that push thing far beyond what's acceptable, often in public, and that gets back to what Imy referenced....third party consent

 

[16:53] spice 'imy' mcginty (Spice Enthusiast):   nods nods.

 

[16:53] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): sure y'all do what you want at home...

 

[16:53] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): anyway we'll get back to that

 

[16:53] Johan Dark (WJohanW Resident): *massages Imy's neck to make sure it doesn't have a kink in it*

 

[16:53] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Johan thanks for that!!

 

[16:54] spice 'imy' mcginty (Spice Enthusiast):   grins gratefully back at Master Johan.

 

[16:54] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Imy back to you please!

 

[16:54] spice 'imy' mcginty (Spice Enthusiast): One thing that S/some here might remember, depending on how long you've been on the educational side of the Lifestyle community here in SL, is the community called Solace of Submission.  There, a group of submissives came together and formed what was called the Brat Pack, which Y/you would think would be a nightmare for the Dominants, but it was actually the exact opposite.  What I believe Sir Magnus mentioned about discussions on responsible bratting... that was kinda what the Brat Pack was for.  It was meant to be a representation to the Community of what ~actual bratting was, to help combat some of that stigma that Draya mentioned that comes from those who just want to be assholes in public and then hide behind the "brat" label.  It was a lovely group for the time it existed, and some of the most submissive people I've met were a part of it.  Which just went on to show that brat does not equal un-submissive.  Also, to avoid instilling any unnecessary fear in folks who are bratty/have brat tendencies, the  assertion that the closest thing to a brat in Leather are pups isn't necessarily true.  Like everything, each community and/or House has its own way of doing things.  For example, the Master and Mistress of the House I trained in in RL were quite appreciative of bratting, when the circumstance allowed.  They didn't train it into Their slaves or anything, but in the right context and time/place, They allowed it.  It's probably where I got my "time/place" awareness from, rather than just being a brat anywhere at any time. Contextual bratting, if Y/you will.  xD #

 

[16:54] Draya Darkwing (Drayana Firehart): you maybe there for a while Sir Johan... Imy ha lots of "kinks"

 

[16:55] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): lol "contextual bratting"

 

[16:55] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): and omg "Solace of Submission"

 

[16:56] Jason-Lenore Blackwood (Malaclypse Blackwood): I found that place my 3rd day in SL

 

[16:56] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): that was Bucephalus Beaumont wasn't it (spelling)

 

[16:56] spice 'imy' mcginty (Spice Enthusiast):   shakes head.  Mikhail Borgin.

 

[16:56] Jason-Lenore Blackwood (Malaclypse Blackwood): More than 13 years ago

 

[16:56] Becky Koolhoven (Becky Koolhoven):

 

[16:56] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): ah!

 

[16:56] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): it all washes together after 20 years!

 

[16:57] Draya Darkwing (Drayana Firehart): ^ facts

 

[16:57] spice 'imy' mcginty (Spice Enthusiast):   nods.  The Communtiy sim some of us lived on still exists - it houses A Meeting Place/A Place to Meet now.  :)

 

[16:57] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): a person being a jerk in public and hiding behind any label is no bueno

 

[16:57] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Some Dominants do that too

 

[16:57] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): None here of course

 

[16:57] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Thanks Imy

 

[16:58] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): ok we have two more comments and we have to close

 

[16:58] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Aithne back to you please

 

[17:01] Aithne (Dryantillae Resident): I personally find to be truly happy we have to accept our nature and follow that nature but I am of the opinion that in daily life we all  constantly grow ..people call me sometimes a cookie cutter slave but personally I like being in that box...strict constraints suit me well ..to follow those after a bad at work or a bad day in life is challenging.. I do have a question again..if a bratty slave acts bratty in public...and their Owner gets a complaint...can that also add to the hhmm ''spicyness'' that a bratty slave can bring? I am speaking in general as I want  to learn

 

[17:02] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): ok I am  going to table that question for a minute  as we are running late and I know that some people need to move on

 

[17:02] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): so let's get Jason-Lenore's final comment, then anyone that wishes can stick around to answer

 

[17:02] Jason-Lenore Blackwood (Malaclypse Blackwood): Thank you Vanni. More to what Johan spoke of....That whole "This is the way my Dom/Daddy likes me and you can't do anything about it." UGGGHHH Yeah I'm not your Dominant and you don't have to listen to me.....BUUUT I also do NOT consent to you playing with your brat kink with me. "Go brat over there and leave me alone.", has been my response to those that insist on being disrespectful like that. Again I don't mind cutting loose and all that but when I give tasks, commands, etc. I expect it done to a certain standard....how it gets done isn't exactly my concern....go ahead and get creative as long as the task is done right . #

 

[17:03] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Agreed!

 

[17:03] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Bratty behavior ain't your thing and that's fine :)

 

[17:03] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Just like Aithne said that acting bratty ain't her thing

 

[17:03] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): and the Darks enjoy it

 

[17:04] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): as long as everyone is happy that is the key

 

[17:04] Draya Darkwing (Drayana Firehart): someone that is disrespectful is not a Brat, end of story,

 

[17:04]  Aυţυмη нαuι (AutumnRaineSkye Resident): Nods in agreement

 

[17:04] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): so subs in your house, Jason-Lenore, would understand to obey and not flit about

 

[17:04] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): which is totally bueno!

 

[17:04] Jason-Lenore Blackwood (Malaclypse Blackwood): They can flit, as long as they do their tasks and aren't an annoyance

 

[17:05] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): hee hee

 

[17:05] Magnus Diavolo (Magnus Diavolo): There is a time and a place for bratting.

 

[17:05] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): agreed

 

[17:05] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): again communiction is key

 

[17:05] Jason-Lenore Blackwood (Malaclypse Blackwood): I enjoy flitting about

 

[17:05] spice 'imy' mcginty (Spice Enthusiast):   nods lots at Sir Magnus.

 

[17:05] мαяιѕѕα  (RougeLaroux Resident): even those of us who visit Masters home with permission of course, know where the lines are, and also the consequences of cross them.

 

[17:05] Aries Amore (Aries Amore): agree with Draya and a playful (bratty) submissive would NEVER want to bring disgrace or disrespect to her Dominate as that would be very painful to her

 

[17:05] Jason-Lenore Blackwood (Malaclypse Blackwood): Time and place

 

[17:05] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Now if anyone wants to answer Aithne's question, feel free.  here it is again...".if a bratty slave acts bratty in public...and their Owner gets a complaint...can that also add to the hhmm ''spicyness'' that a bratty slave can bring? I am speaking in general as I want  to learn"

 

[17:06] shae the pwincess muffinbutt (Shae Shadow): It would be generally poor ettiquette in any BDSM community to brat to a D type you don't already have some relationship (and consent to)

 

[17:07] Magnus Diavolo (Magnus Diavolo): Personally, I believe that question runs right into the third-party consent problem. That person that she's bratting at, forcing them to bring a complaint to their Dominant, likely didn't consent to being involved in that dynamic.

 

[17:07] Mal (Pwnography Resident): I think as long as the brat is not crossing a line and being bratty with somebody they do not belong to, it's not something to be concerned about, generally. Some people have bad days, some people do not like certain things. you can't control everybody in public scenarios. However if you do something that affects somebody else and they complain, it should be regarded.

 

[17:07] shae the pwincess muffinbutt (Shae Shadow): I would never embarrass Kat like that

 

[17:07] Jason-Lenore Blackwood (Malaclypse Blackwood): I mean I guess I could see that in a blasphemous confession/punishment/atonement sort of dynamic......

 

[17:07] Draya Darkwing (Drayana Firehart): that would depend on the dynamic and the Dominant, some doms want to project power when out in public, so they want their subs on their best behaviour, others.. less so, there is a chance for anything in the D/s community, any combinations of things, its just finding the right fit for your needs and agreeing to a working dynamic,

 

[17:07] мαяιѕѕα  (RougeLaroux Resident):   looks out her nuns outfit for Master Jason

 

[17:08] Jason-Lenore Blackwood (Malaclypse Blackwood): Do i need to put on my confessional?

 

[17:08] spice 'imy' mcginty (Spice Enthusiast): I can only answer for the dynamic I have with my Master, but I suppose the nature of the complaint would determine His feelings about it.  If I was truly being an asshole in public and He got a complaint, it would absolutely be a situation where a chat and discipline were necessary, because I did not represent Him well.  But if Someone is just up Their own ass and think They're allowed to have an opinion on something that isn't Their business?  Then He'll give a generic, "Thank you for letting me know" and we'll have a good chuckle about it and move on.

 

[17:08] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Even a brat has some expectations.  if a Dom  says "what we do here is fine, in public I expect this kind of behavior" and the Brat pushes it in public, that is grounds for real punishment IMO

 

[17:08] Mal (Pwnography Resident): I agree.

 

[17:09] Draya Darkwing (Drayana Firehart): agreed, as i said before, a Brat will never disobey their dominant, thats not the game, doing so makes you a bad sub not a brat

 

[17:09] Jason-Lenore Blackwood (Malaclypse Blackwood): Vanni! Why do these mentions of religious RP come up here so often?

 

[17:10] Cedric Harcourt (Cedric Harcourt): personally I think a respectful response would be for the brat to self correct as soon as she sees her actions are being percieved by another D as being disrespectful.  I would question her D if he didnt expect the same -  just my thought

 

[17:10] spice 'imy' mcginty (Spice Enthusiast): Like Miss Vanni's example about the coffee thing earlier that She thought I would make a snarky comment about turning her ~into coffee.  If She didn't hav a problem with it and She wasn't the one complaining?  No one else's opinion would really matter to my Master if They tried to complain, so long as I didn't interrupt the discussion and derail it.  But if Miss Vanni truly asked for coffee and I turned Her into coffee and she didn't like it and complained?  Discipline would ensue.  :)

 

[17:10] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Tann that used to come here to Xaara had a sub, Aoisle who was a total brat.  they enjoyed the dynamic in public to an extent.  But Aoisle also knew when to peel back because if she pushed things too far in public and Tann got a real complaint (rather than "your sub is really annoying" kind of generic stuff) they'd have a talk.

 

[17:11] Jason-Lenore Blackwood (Malaclypse Blackwood): I remember them :)

 

[17:11] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Good folks :)

 

[17:11] Rachel (RachelHolt Resident): I usually ignore an obnoxious brat

 

[17:11] Rachel (RachelHolt Resident): best way to shut them down

 

[17:12] Mal (Pwnography Resident): It's very easy to ignore people here.

 

[17:12] Rachel (RachelHolt Resident): and some brats just hate that

 

[17:12] Mal (Pwnography Resident): Here being second life.

 

[17:12] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): I regularly use "Block" to people who are real arseholes

 

[17:12] spice 'imy' mcginty (Spice Enthusiast):   nods lots at Sir Mal.

 

[17:12] Rachel (RachelHolt Resident): yeppers...me to

 

[17:12] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): This was a great discussion!

 

[17:13] Mal (Pwnography Resident): I liked it. Thank you, Vanessa.

 

[17:13] Kat Shadow (Kat Shadow): block is my friend

 

[17:13] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): Thanks all so much for your insights and thoughts

 

[17:13] Magnus Diavolo (Magnus Diavolo): Excellent discussion. Thank you so much for this, Vanessa and everyone.

 

[17:13] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): in a couple weeks we'll get to more general discussion topics

 

[17:13] Vanessa Cannoli (Vanessa Cannoli): but "third party consent" is coming soon

 

[17:13] Kat Shadow (Kat Shadow): Thanks Vanessa, this was very thought provoking & fun as always

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